Sharing DeAnna L’am – Enjoying Your Daughter At Any Age!

Enjoying Your Daughter At Any Age!
by DeAnna L’am

One of my mentors said to me many years ago: “It’s great to work on cleaning the barn, but don’t forget to RIDE THE PONIES!”

Are you so busy reminding your girl of her homework/ chores/ the need to get-out-of-the-door, that you don’t have time to enjoy her anymore??? If you wonder where did all the joy go, now that your girl is approaching puberty, read on…

When I heard myself sounding like an old tape-recorder reminding my  daughter Ellah (9) of simple things she needs to do every day, I decided to start taking walks with her.

We bundle up every morning before school, and go for our special time together. We pause as we enter the walking trail, and thank Mother Earth for her beauty. While Ellah skips, hops, and jumps around me, I take my “power walk.” We invent little songs and pacing-rhymes; we open our eyes to see the skies, our ears to listen to birds, and our hearts to take in the beauty. I enjoy my daughter’s company immensely on these walks, as well as get my exercise!

How can you implement this with your girl (or children)?
What allows me to enjoy my girl’s company so much is the fact that we are spending special time outside our family’s daily obligations! There are no dishes to wash, no chores for her, no phone calls or email distractions for me…

Create a daily, weekly, or any recurring occasion for you and your girl to spend one-on-one time outside of the home. It is important that you are both away from your daily environment and the myriad of things that demand your attention. The quality of this time is initiated by the virtue of scheduling it! This demonstrates to both of you how important your relationship is…
If you have more than one child, devote shorter one-on-one time to each, on a regular basis. Your exclusive attention will matter far more than the length of time you spend.


On my walks with Ellah I give voice to my enjoyment of nature; I breathe deeply and speak my appreciation of what I see. When it’s time to turn back I announce this to the trees, and ask that one of them draw my attention and give me a message. Ellah was so taken by this on our first walk, that she now gets four or five messages from trees every day! I don’t need to give her speeches about how alive nature is, or how it speaks to us if we listen. This would have sounded like a lecture! Instead, I model what I want her to know.

So many Moms tell me their daughters don’t share anything with them. Well, do YOU share with your daughter??? Do you model the behavior you would like to see?
The shift from “Telling” to “Modeling” is a small but profound one! It will make the difference between your girl tuning you out or walking away, to her listening, and sharing her experiences with you!

Cultivating this practice is particularly important as your girl approaches puberty (and even more so if she’s already there!) Taking a walk, or setting aside regular times for the two of you alone, will give you the opportunity to speak with her about tender transitions in her body and heart.

“But where do I begin to talk with her about THIS???” you may ask…
I am very excited to let you know I’m working on a special offering that will help you stop worrying about “The Talk”, and start talking with your girl! I am sooo excited about it! I can’t wait to share it with you… so stay tuned, I’m putting the finishing touches on, and when I’m done — you’ll be the first to know!

~ DeAnna L’am, speaker, coach, and consultant, is the author of Becoming Peers – Mentoring Girls Into Womanhood. Her pioneering work with mothers and coming-of-age girls has been transforming girls’ and women’s lives around the world, for over 20 years. To jump-start your relationship with your daughter, and to receive FREE tips now, go to: 


Another “Traveler Taantrik wrote in”

Vee Wong was a pleasure to meet and the most adorable human being on earth !

Taantraa was desperate to travel to China and how ! Too lengthy to pen it here.

Through Vee it reached Hongkong phew !

Vee Wong

Vee’s comment:

“I had the red wine cake…and the coffee cake…and the very special orange cake, awesome. It tastes healthy — light, not sweet (but sweet in a different way, ne?), and heart-warming. Bundle of joy. Thanks a bunch, T.

          And how is K lately? “

Vee, i look forward to your visiting India all over again.

Be well and take care !


Horchata vs Maida ?

It’s heart wrenching to know that today’s parents have no clue what is

  • good
  • bad
  • harmful
  • potentially fatal or
  • soul food

for their own blood.

It was easier to put our welfare in the dedicated hands of our Parents. Since then its been a serious downfall. Ask them about the Maida influx into the Roti devouring Indian culture. Maybe their own child is eating pasta/pizza everyday but what to do the dead grain wins over and above everything.

Is it that we have any dearth of good grains ? How about the list below to name a few ?

  • Raggi
  • Maize
  • Rice
  • Whole Wheat
  • Jowar

Came across something absolutely stunning and know you would all love to try it.

So ladies and Gentlemen  presenting Horchata


Makes 7 servings
Adapted from recipes from Rick Bayless and David Lebovitz

2/3 cup white rice
2 cinnamon sticks
Pinch of freshly ground nutmeg
3 2-inch strips of lime zest (colored rind only) 3/4 inch wide
3 cups of hot water
3/4 – 1 cup sugar
3 cups of cold water

Grind the rice in a blender or spice grinder into fine pieces. Transfer to a medium-sized bowl and add in the cinnamon sticks, nutmeg and lime zest. Stir in 3 cups of hot tap water, cover and let stand at least 6 hours or preferably, overnight.

Remove the cinnamon sticks and pour the mixture into a blender and blend for 3 to 4 minutes, until it no longer feels very gritty. Add 2 cups of water, and then blend for a few seconds more. Set a large sieve over a mixing bowl and line with 3 layers of dampened cheese cloth. Pour in the mixture a little at time, gently stirring to help the liquid pass through. Squeeze the cheese cloth firmly to extract as much of the rice flavor as possible.

Add 1 cup of water and stir in your desired amount of sugar, mix until the sugar is dissolved. Taste, and adjust sweetness, if necessary. If the consistency is too thick, add additional water. Cover and refrigerate until you’re ready to serve. Stir before pouring.  Serve over ice with a sprinkling of ground cinnamon on top.

Peeled this from

Do try and share.

Be Healthy.


Traveler Taantrik wrote in

Here´s the photo. It was taken in El Retiro (the “Central Park” of Madrid).

The big building its overlooking is the El Prado art museum. Hope you guys like it.

Sorry if the packaging looks a bit crumpled, being inside of a suitcase for 3 days will do that to you!

Thankfully the cakes didn´t lose any of their flavor, they were delicious 🙂 Thanks again Taantraa!

My sister really liked the pendant and the red wine cake (she hardly left me any!), so the thanks is from her too.

Take care!


Cosmic Ingredients

The rush that surges through these divine cakes are an amalgamation of certain energies, which are woven together to create pure threads of molten gold, sometimes wrapped in

  • cocoa
  • moong dal
  • coffee choco
  • just nuts
  • wine
  • almond orange

As the Taantraa unfolds thus the cakes rises and peaks. The said energies are a part of this and that with a lop solid dollop of magick potion. To disclose the must haves elements:


  • Multi garin
  • Wheat grass
  • Jaggery
  • Nuts


  • Eggs
  • Curd


  • Oil
  • Spices


  • Popping sodas
  • Magick potions

This is the mix that gets the soul on a cosmic trip. Once the magick settles the soul hears the song and dance of woven gold.


Cakes are  a creation of Dreamers. One who wants to combine a few or a lot of ingredients to arrive at a Destination.

My creations, these cakes have the core of a traveler. Almost to a point of craze. On the day of their birth, one traveled to London via Pune. On the second round of birthing, they romped off to China and Spain via Bangalore …… Undeniably its my core. A big part of me in them hence the fix.

Now it’s easier, i let go of  a part of me or rather unleash myself onto the world and see it through their eyes. In this way i leave a mark in some sense too in this world. Which was proving to be quite difficult otherwise.

My friend reported, it was had by people from Mumbai and Delhi- in essence Taantraa visited. The saga of the never ending journey.

So know !

Only serious hard core traveling vibes Beings pick up my cakes. They consume and share these with equally or more serious travelers and no less. Static energies won’t even have a clue that Taantraa exists. Nor will they know that Taantraa is an entity that can be consumed to share the pulse of the fellow travelers of this Universe or with the beings from outer space.